After having had two cute kids for Peter Okoye of
Psquare, the question that pops up in everyone's mind is "Why aren't they
married yet?"
Well, Peter Okoye's baby mama and heart throb, Lola
Omotayo has cleared the air on the issue - it's not Peter Okoye's fault as
speculated by the blogosphere!
In a recent interview with a National newspaper, she
disclosed all there is on her relationship with the musician and why she is not
in a hurry to get married YET!
See excerpts below:
Many people got to know you when your relationship with
Peter Okoye started. Who really is Lola Omotayo?
Simply put, what you see is what you get. I can’t really
define who I am per se, but I’m humble, caring, loving and a professional in
the oil and gas profession. I take my work and family very seriously because
they are very important to me, my family in particular.
Your heartthrob, Peter is quite successful, but you seem
not to depend on his wealth. What’s your driving force?
I believe that as a lady, you have to support your
partner. You can’t put everything on your partner; it is important to add value
as well. Even though I’m not bringing as much as he brings to the table, at
least, I’m adding value and making things a lot easier.
Honestly, that’s the way I was brought up; I
can’t rely on someone for everything. I have to be independent. I should be
able to buy something for my kids without asking their father for money. I feel
good as a person knowing that I can do things for myself, not that I want to
feel above him in anyway, but I just feel it is important for me to add some
value to his life as much as he adds to mine.What advice do you have for Nigerian ladies who put all their financial burdens on their partner?
I think that is the core of our problems in this society
because we put so much pressure on the man to take care of us, pay our bills…we
put so much pressure on them, and that tempts some men to start doing some
shady businesses. Women put too much pressure on men in this part of the world.
Also, a lot of women are greedy and lazy, so they just
want to get married and stop working. It doesn’t mean women should go all out
and work for the men, but somehow, you just have to make things easy for him. I
see a lot of young ladies out there; it is not as if there are no jobs for them
to do, the problem is that they don’t want to do certain type of jobs, they
want everything to come easy.
I started the very hard way, I didn’t start the easy way
like people assume. I had to work myself up there because I had a vision. A lot
of young ladies in Nigeria see people driving fancy cars; carrying fancy bags
and assume that a man is supposed to do all of that for them, so they sell
themselves in order to get it. But you don’t have to do that. You can always
find ways to make money legally.
Assuming you didn’t come from a wealthy family, how would
you have coped, considering the tight economic situation of the country?
I think it is still about family values. I came from a
humble background; I didn’t come from a very rich background. My parents worked
really hard and I saw the care that they took to ensure that they instill the
best on their kids, so I drew my strength from there.
You have to fight for whatever you want; if it is
education that will take you there, then, you have to go to school and ensure
that you get the needed degree. And if you are creative, you can do other
things, may be design clothes and all that.
It doesn’t have to be a big job. Dangote didn’t start
with millions of dollars, so you have to be focused and work on it gradually to
get to where you are going. In fact, coming from a privileged background is
difficult because it won’t make you enjoy how life really is. For me, my father
really threw me to the dogs; he wanted me to see how life was.
He could have enrolled me to some fancy schools when I
was growing up, but he wanted me to see how life is. He made me rub shoulders
with people who had nothing. I have friends who came from rich background and
today, they have nothing. I also have friends who came from poor homes and
today they are doing well. It is about values and hard work.
How romantic is he?
Peter is very romantic as well. He does things that an
average Nigerian guy will not do. There was a Valentine’s Day that he came to
my house with a guitar and played some love ballads for me. That was really
cool and I loved it. Those are the little things that he does that really
touched me.
How challenging is it to date a celebrity?
Having a relationship with a musician is one of the most
challenging situations to be in. There are things you have to deal with; a lot
of women, intruders, fans. You have to appreciate and respect the fans, but you
also have some of them who are thinking of other things. I think it’s one of
the most challenging relationships one can have.
You won’t even spend much time with your partner because
he’s on the road most of the time doing shows and concerts; even during
holidays like Christmas, Easter and New Year, they are not around. So I’m not
really enjoying that part. But I thank God that we are managing it very well.
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